A Healthy Relationship Starts Here

Divine Love, Sacred Health, Holy Joy. It all starts here.

Reading books that feel like guilt, reading them slowly

Picnics with no planned end

Wave jumping until your thighs burn and your sides hurt from laughing

Board games

Flowers and plants and nature walks

Slow baking the simple things. Bread.

I make bread every week even though it takes around four hours to make because it reminds me to slow down. It reminds me to nourish. It reminds me the best things are simple, immersive. It reminds me, to create a slow, cozy childhood for the girls – and for my inner child. It reminds me to make a home that is covered in flour, fun, peeking in the oven and agonising waits for the cooling and the slicing and the slow melting of the butter.

Real food, from scratch

Old things. Inherited things. Found things. Charity shop and flea market things. Made things. Linens, tablecloths, old frames, bundles of sheets. Wooden spoons and rolling pins and leather soap for saddles. Flower crowns. Natural soap. Kid’s paintings and the small things they give with all of their heart in that moment.

Crying. For space and because you can. Raging. Writing letters you’ll never send. Your sacred emotions are cleansing and freeing

Presence. Deep, devotional, presence. Without digital distraction.

Forest walks, tree hugs, tree climbing, resting and naps in leafy shade.

Strong hugs every day

Making art

Not sleeping alone

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More oxytocin
Less dopamine

More of the real
More true connection
Less of the screen, the false, the veil, the hiding, the inauthentic.

More steady inhales and exhales
More being in the body
More movement
Less overthinking
Less living in the mind

Less ‘I’
More ‘We’


This is health. This is simplicity. This isn’t an aspirational dream or goal. These are the things that slow down our adrenalin rushes, our cortisol and dopamine spikes. This is our oxytocin. This is connection. This is peace.

This is love.